Well this guy asked me out a couple of months agoand i dated him but then dumped him after four days. Only cause i didn't have a thing for him ; now i like him but he has moved he even told ne i don't like you i like someone else. Which i know won't date him causr they don't date my ex. Should i wait for him or go after the guy who i think likes me. Its a major reason their are not a lot of good relationships that succeed because they never get started Why?
Fear of being rejected. So someone won't date him because he is your ex. I just don't see it that way 4 days to me does not classify a relationship. Sounds like this guy is really hurt. If you are telling the truth go to him and tell him. Look I'm sorry but it wasn't you it was me I felt like I wasn't good enough for you that should ease the pain a great deal and put this back to a level playing field and should be flattering to him that this is how you really feel.
I'm guessing that they would've written it when they were trying to "move along" after being through a bad relationship or bad experience. Inspirational, sad at parts. Go after the guy you like. If its your ex tell him how you feel and explain that you didn't know how you felt during the time you were with him. Hopefully he will give you another chance. If its the other guy then go for it. Just follow your heart. Did you already tried using Pull Your Ex Back mechanism? Possibly this could immediately instruct each and every one!
There's no going back.
Answer Save. Favorite Answer. Jeanette Lv 4. How do you think about the answers? You can sign in to vote the answer. If that person went on forward then leave him alone and look for someone else for life is to short and there is more fishes in the sea. Gus T. T Showbiz. Who's crying now? Show more answers 1. Still have questions?
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I rejected someone, now I like them I was friends with this person for about 5 years. We've always be bestfriends. We constantly flirted and it was clear that he had a thing for me. I did like him but i didnt want it to ruin our friendship. One day he told me he was in love with me.
I was so shocked but I was really happy. I decided to give it a chance and it didn't feel right at first.She Rejected Me But Still Acts Interested - #1 Technique To See If She Likes You.
I was too scared to put my whole heart into it. I was so hurt before him and I didn't want to be hurt again. I rejected him basically. Now he cut all contact from me, he blocked me from everything and ignores me. If I am near him he walks in a different direction. I realized I made a big mistake in rejecting him and I poured my heart out to him the other day saying how much I miss them and sorry I am. He had a short response and continued to ignore me.
There has been no progress. This has been going on for about 8 weeks now. I don't understand why he is still ignoring me. What should I do?
I think you should accept that he is too hurt and is likely not willing to be hurt again. He may change his mind but you should not bank on it. I know how you feel, believe it or not, ive been in a very similar situation.We met in college but were never really close and reconnected a year ago purely as friends. We started hanging out a lot the past year. He used to live two hours away so he would drive from far away to see me.
I thought nothing of it.
Then he moved to my city and we were close to each other now. One night we went out and he made a move on me. I froze. This was three months ago. We kept hanging out then, pretending nothing had happened, me sending mixed signals, both of us casually dating other people. But I recently broke off casual dating because I realized I had strong feelings for him but now I wonder if it is too late? So should I make a move or will that emasculate him?
And if we do date, do the same rules apply? Should I wait to sleep with him? Because it gives me a chance to bring something up that I see all the time as a dating coach, especially in my private member forum. In that group, hundreds of women share their dating stories and support each other. And most of their questions sound just like what you wrote to me.
What do you guys think I should say? That he might be sick of your fears and insecurities. That he might need space. His mind is already made up.
The OT can be the worst thing to your relationship, or in this case to your almost relationship. Be secure in who you are and who you are in your relationship, the insecurities and sometimes repeated insecurieties can only damage your relationship. Only women are complicated…No offense to men…:. You think we are simple, trust me you being a woman, you do not know how complicated our emotions can be.
I have continued to hang out with women that rejected me because eventually i just saw us as friends. Ladies, when you put a guy in the friend zone, they will eventually lose all attraction they had for you, we start seeing you as like a sister and at that point we lose all sexual attraction. Great Great post Evan. Yes Jackie Holmes. Spot on. Women overanalyse men because they think men are just as complicated as they are.
And since they are already friends, I doubt he would be put off if she was upfront and honest with him about their romantic future.When I was single, there was truly nothing more difficult than telling a dude I had feelings for him. In fact, I'd go out of my way to convince them that I didn't have any feelings at all before I would actually swallow my pride and share my feelings openly and honestly. The root of this little problem of mine was, of course, a fear of being rejected by men I had feelings for.
But, according to a new Reddit AskWomen thread, being rejected isn't as bad as I thought it would be. In fact, it looks like these ladies came out on the other end of it better than they were before. By Candice Jalili. Having the courage to be open about your feelings is something to be proud of. I've been rejected by countless people. No, I don't feel stupid nor embarrassed, maybe a little sad, but not stupid nor embarrassed. You had the courage to ask, you should be proud of that.
Having the courage to go after the things you want or people you're interested is actually very intelligent - stupid would be letting your fear get in the way of you trying. You've nothing to be embarrassed about nor to feel stupid for, but maybe a little sad for sure, but that's okay, too.
It's important to put the rejection into perspective.
I was actually rejected this evening. And not every guy I ask out wants to date me. Dating should be the cherry on top of your already awesome life. I already have a delicious sundae - and if a guy comes into my life, awesome.
Now I like the guy I rejected and I feel awful about it?
If not, my life is still awesome. Another person shouldn't have the power to dictate your self worth. I've been rejected once. He told me he had to think about it and he never called me back. I think I was 20? No, I didn't feel embarrassed. His loss. Don't let someone that can't see your value dictate your self worth. Time really does heal all wounds. I asked out my best guy friend in high school. He decided that it was probably time for him to come out of the closet.
I was humiliated how did I not know my best friend at the time was gay?!?! We eventually stopped talking for unrelated reasons It's still possible to remain friends after the fact. Did I feel embarrassed? A little. But the guy and I remained friends, so it wasn't a super big deal. As time goes on, you'll realize the person might not have been that great of a match after all. Just once. Turns out he had a girlfriend.Actually after saying no, I said "we can still be friends right?
He should feel the least bit of embarrassed because our friend group just has issues, solves them and pretends like it never happened. No bringing it up or making anyone feel awkward.
If you were in his shoes or any other human being, out of politeness of the situation anyone would say "yes", as you can tell he didn't really mean it. The rest is up to him, many of the people would break contact after that, that is why it is better to think before you speak and look before you leap.
Though my post is from long ago I found the perfect link that explains girls feelings and is a defense against guys complaining about being friendzoned. No, it wouldn't be the same reasons for me, not if they don't bring it up again. That or it's too painful. Talking to you just reminds them they like you and you don't feel the same. Guy's Behavior. Had a guy friend I knew since 9th grade, met him through a mutual friend. I thought he liked my friend. Few years later everyone's telling me he liked me.
He finally got the courage to ask me out, in which I said no. He slowly stopped talking to me after he was acting like everything was ok. Another guy asked me out about two months into me starting high school, I told him no and he considers me his best friend now. The other guy recently tagged me in a memory on social media about me and him and I commented but he never said anything. Before we were kind of flirty but I thought he was joking, I was, me and my guy friends would do that sometimes so I thought nothing of it.
Share Facebook. Why do guys stop talking to you after you reject them? Add Opinion. Imagine you get lost in the woods and haven't eaten in 5 days. Not a moment goes by where you aren't thinking about how hungry you are. Finally, you are found, and you ask for food. You are told that they didn't think to arrange any food right then, but people will be cooking for the next 4 hours, and after that, you'll be able to eat.
Then, they give you a choice of where to wait: in the kitchen, where you have to watch and smell them prepare food for 4 hours before you get to eat, or outside, where people are talking and passing the time. Almost anyone would pick "outside", because wanting food so bad, and then having to see and smell it for 4 hours before you can eat any is TORTURE, and why torture yourself when you can go outside and let others distract you from your hunger?
The time will pass much more quickly that way. That's something like how he feels. He really likes you. Being "just friends" when he's "hungry" for a relationship is just like waiting in the kitchen while others prepare food while you starve - it's TORTURE. So, if he can't have you, then he's better off being far away from you, where he can put you out of his mind and not torture himself wishing and being jealous and miserable.I didn't mean to hurt his feelings.
Did I screw up permanently or can this be fixed? You haven't burn all your bridges. Only you can fixed the situation. Find the right opportunity to tell him that you're sorry and you didn't mean to hurt him the sooner the better.
Tell him what you just told me that he put you on the spot and you panicked. That you do like him and ask him if he would like to hang out with you and go for a movie or lunch.
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If you find it hard to tell him in person I advice you write it down in a letter and give it to him in person. Everything will be fine. His friend knows I like him but I don't think theyll tell, even if I didn't ask them to keep it a secret and I'm not close enough with the friend to TELL him to tell about it.
It should fix everything, but he needs to know for it to work. The only opinion from guys was selected the Most Helpful Opinion, but you can still contribute by sharing an opinion! I met one of my friends through another friend. We'll call him Ken. Ken, my friend, and I hung out at Six Flags one day and had a great time and that was the first time we ever hung out like that.
At school I always said hey, and we sat at the same lunch table but not very close and we kinda kept to our own 'group' during conversation. So I never really noticed him. Then one of my close friends, Bob Who likes me but I think of him as a little brother tells me Ken likes me. This surprised me and I thought OK no big deal. I'll say no just like I did with Bob. The next day day before winter break Ken asks me out.By Guest crazyko, May 17, in soompi hangout.
We're dating now. I decided to be extra flirty around him and it worked because he kissed me.
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Finally, I just got over it. Second time, we're currently dating. I dont know, this happen to my as well, this guy liked me I didnt know him that well so dont have any feelings then after started to like him but he moved on. That's sadd though. I confessed to him and then in front of his friends, he rejected me.
Two or three years later, he confessed to me. Unlike him, I let him down gently. Sadly yup. I liked his friend but he liked me. I think I only liked him afterwards though because I couldn't have him. He got another girlfriend like a month after confessing to me so I think it was just through jealousy. It happened to me. I rejected the guy. About a year after I rejected him, I saw him holding hand with another girl in a grocery store. I was first surprised and not happy. After that I heard he was dating with her, and I felt the pain.
I realized that I liked him, but I knew it was too late. I waited for him to break up with that girl I don't like to ruin a relationship. I actually waited 3 years! While waiting for him, there were guys confessed to me but I rejected them all. I wanted him, but when 3 years passed I gave up.